Try this at home
Over the years, many of you have asked for advice to determine which Internet dating service is the best. The weeks prior to Valentine’s Day are among the busiest for these companies as unattached singles search for love. If you’re in the mood to try online dating, take advantage of the following reviews of a smattering of popular Web sites.
Plenty of Fish
Post a photo on this free dating site, and you will haul in more e-mails than you imagined possible. Twenty- and 30-somethings will meet people who embrace cool counterculture philosophies and off-the-grid lifestyles. But the older set tends toward people who haven’t seen a dentist in a while, who bet the ponies at Cal Expo often enough to need a 12-step intervention, who work irregularly and who haven’t met a word they couldn’t misspell at least three different ways in the same e-mail. Did I mention it’s a free site? Go fish!
The powerhouse of online dating, Match.com invites you to specify details of an ideal partner using a list that appears to be the love child of the U.S. Census and those psychologists who design questionnaires for Cosmopolitan magazine. The result is heavy on superficial similarities, making the site a breeding ground for infatuation-based connections. After a couple of first dates, it’s clear that Match.com is the online version of Harlow’s nightclub: a shelter for the newly separated, recently divorced and other walking wounded. On dates, most divorced men still pepper every conversation with references to their ex-wife (“Trisha and I … ”) and manage to drop their alma mater into every conversation (“When I swam at Cal … ”), even if graduation was 30 years ago. Women malign their ex-husbands (“Bobby’s a cheating bastard!”) and complain about child support. Most of them need counseling, not a date. The good news is there are a lot of people on Match.com, so you are certain to meet someone special.
This is Match.com in a lab coat. After taking a psychological test, you are linked to personality types that sync with yours. When you chat for the first time, the connection will be obvious. But Chemistry.com attracts men and women who pay to have waste-of-time connections screened out. These online daters are very busy, accomplished people who don’t actually have much time for dating (think George Clooney’s character in Up in the Air) but like the idea of it. If you can squeeze yourself into their schedule and parameters, you might find a wonderful partner.
A popular site for born-again Christians, eHarmony’s claims of a scientific method have been revealed as false, especially for their gay and lesbian clients. You can expect to have little in common with the majority of the profiles forwarded to you, making the one or two diamonds (sometimes, in the rough) seem like rare gems indeed.
You know those TV shows where a hooker asks a guy if he wants a date? The people on Craigslist speak the same language. A “date” on Craigslist means “let’s get it on,” and though money or gifts are sometimes exchanged for sexual favors, mostly it’s free.
Does everyone look strangely familiar? Those aren’t doppelgangers on the Yahoo site. Actually, most of the people with accounts on Match.com are also on the subscription-based Yahoo site. Yahoo is actually one of most popular dating Web sites, consistently scoring more hits than eHarmony or Match.com.